In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.
It is then burst into flame by an encounter
with another human being. We should all be thankful
for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.
~ Albert Schweitzer
Personal Thoughts:
It doesn’t happen very often that we think about the effect that our words have upon others. The words we speak have power and everything that we say has a positive or negative impact on others around us.
We are creatures of habit and that even includes most of what we do sexually. That means that also the way we make love becomes a habit. We do it the same way, same positions and even on the same days. For most people sex has become a ‘goal-orientated’ activity. With the goal being the Orgasm. But we lose out on the pleasure along the way, as we get so lost in rushing to get there.
We could really get involved with our partner, if we took the Orgasm completely out of the equation, stopped being so concerned and hung-up with the end result, and if we were fully present, the pleasure we could get from that would be so much greater and the intimacy would be so much deeper.
You just think, sex with the lights off. How intimate can you be? Or how intimate can you be when your eyes are closed and you are lost in some kind of fantasy? In those moments, how connected are you really to your partner?
I am not suggesting that you don’t have Orgasms. Far from it. It is quite simple. I am suggesting to be fully present with your partner. Acknowledge the love you share and acknowledge each other. During lovemaking look into each others eyes. It kind of ‘forces’ you to be fully in the moment with your partner. I am sure you have heard the expression “the eyes are the windows to the soul“. Therefore looking into each others eyes gives you both the opportunity to share a soul connection. By doing that, you go beyond the physical into something deep and far more special.
Incompatible, it don’t matter though
‘cos someone’s bound to hear my cry
Speak out if you do
you’re not easy to find
Is it possible Mr. Loveable
is already in my life?
right in front of me
or maybe you’re in disguise
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
who knows how to love you without being told
somebody tell me why I’m on my own
if there’s a soulmate for everyone
Here we are again, circles never end
how do I find the perfect fit
there’s enough for everyone
but I’m still waiting in line
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
who knows how to love you without being told
somebody tell me why I’m on my own
if there’s a soulmate for everyone
If there’s a soulmate for everyone
Most relationships seem so transitory
They’re all good but not the permanent one
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
who knows how to love you without being told
somebody tell me why I’m on my own
if there’s a soulmate for everyone
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
who knows how to love you without being told
somebody tell me why I’m on my own
if there’s a soulmate for everyone
If there’s a soulmate for everyone …
CHEATING - What would you do if you were faced with this issue?
Sometimes we all face the ‘common’ dilemma that many friendships have to face. We find out that our friend’s partner was cheating. Have you told your friend? Were you honest? Did you pretend you weren’t aware and just got on with your life knowing what’s going on? What happened - and what were the consequences? Was it the end of the friendship?
Well, you decided not to tell. Do you have any regrets by not telling? If you could turn back the clock, would you tell again? Were you to scared to tell? Or was it that you thought some things are better not to be spoken about? Did your friend find out?
Has this happened to you? Did you ever find out? If you have, how did you react? What did you do?
But most of all - If it was you, who was cheated on, would you want someone to tell you? Would you want to know? This really is the question… !
I don’t know about you, but I think Jeff done a great job of his video and his proposal.
To all you men who are watching this, I hope you find the video inspiring and that it will give you the incentive to go a little beyond your threshold and make a bit more ‘fuss’ of the women in your lives. Well, it worked for Jeff - - Natasha said YES!!
Love Letters - An Animated Proposal
At the time of my viewing this video has been watched an amazing 895,908 times.
Men will be bad mouthed, tarred and feathered for seeing a prostitute. And who knows, if he is married, maybe he should be for having broken his vows to his wife. Or some may think that he should even be locked away for seeing a hooker? And the question almost always comes up, what is up with those men who visit a prostitute? Why would he do such a incredible dumb thing? What is the attraction? Has it something to do with power? Maybe Escape? … or even self-sabotage?
If we look at it from a psychological point, it doesn’t matter much to a man where the prostitute comes from. Be it from a VIP Club, or a strip club. Even the costs involved has little to do with it. No matter how high the price.
The prostitute temporarily supplies a short lived ‘psychic’ factor. The relief of the conflict of responsibility and guilt. This appeals to the man. After they have made their payment, they experience that ‘she’ will still be totally care, be committed and devoted to him, to his happiness, pleasure and his satisfaction. It makes the prostitute kind of ‘irresistible’. And also, he doesn’t have to worry about pleasing ‘her’. He does not have to make her happy. Worry about her emotional state or her emotional demands. He can ‘give’ as he pleases. He can also take as he pleases. And they both know that there doesn’t need to be a mutual exchange. He can be totally selfish. If he decides, he can be aggressive, or passive and ‘she’ won’t be upset. ‘She’ will even ‘play’ and act aroused and is completely focused on ‘her customer‘. He has no responsibility for her whatsoever. It doesn’t matter if the prostitute is acting, as to be honest, he just likes to be the center of her world and the illusion of authenticity is more than enough for him.
Sometimes men belief that women are ‘high maintenance’ as well as helpless and men are physically weighted down by the feeling that they are responsible for a woman, that they are obliged to make her happy, look after her and they feel compelled to rather be in a relationship with a hooker. That is the only way for them to feel guild, responsibility and worry free.
That is what men may belief and these beliefs are reinforced by our culture and those beliefs are possibly formed in childhood. Quite often these beliefs are wrong. But sometimes when men have these feelings, they feel held back, inhibited, and pressurised in their sexual relationships. Men feel if they don’t give a lot they can’t get much out of a relationship and sometimes they rather ‘pay’ the high price for a ‘relationship’ with a prostitute so they get what they want. And there is no doubt, if they are in a ‘normal’ relationship or even married, eventually it will make their relationship or even their marriages suffer.
Some men seek relationships in which they can let go, freely express themselves with their desires. They don’t have to worry, feel guilty or even lie to a partner/wife, so they seek the freedom of a relationship with a prostitute.
And there are also ‘business’ men, for some of them these issues are slightly heightened. Of course, we can argue about it, but they are accustomed to wielding power. They are used to ‘using’ others and they expect others to ‘serve’ their needs. In the world they live in, no one gives anything without the expectation in getting something back. They claim that everybody wants a piece of them. In their world, (well, in the healthiest of cases), they feel that at home they can be themselves being with their families, feel accepted and loved without conditions. But than it happens, too often their marriages and family lives have to take a backseat to their careers. Their marriage looses purpose, it no longer functions as havens of mutual exchange, connection, love and passion… and THAN, the sex-life is on zero… here he goes, he finds a prostitute… pays in advance and he can enjoy the fantasy, whatever it is, whatever he wants, his immediate pleasure is ‘her‘ sole aim, which ‘she’ pursues ’happily’. He does not have to do anything for anybody during the time he is with ‘her’. He is the most important person.
What motivates the individual man to do the very thing we call ‘stupid’? What makes them so destructive to themselves and others? Is it their anxiety? The conflicts they suffer at home? That they can freely express themselves and their desires? Or is it the longings not to have to do anything for anyone?
As a word, love is small and it is also simple and unassuming.
When we place intention and action behind the word love, love becomes very powerful. Love becomes magical. And love becomes one of life’s greatest motivators.
What do you really know about love?
We have love for the once that are closest to us, like partners, family and friends. We can give love to others. We can give love to life. We can give love to the world around us.
A lot of the things we do and try to accomplish in our life is motivated by love. We desire a loving partner and a loving family as well as loving friends. Our aim is to love and to be loved. We hope to build a life we love and quite often, we are moved to make choices out of love for someone or something.
Some people regard love as complex, painful and difficult. But all we need to do is love unconditionally and with truth and it becomes the easiest thing in the world.
We can only love unconditionally when we first love ourselves and accept who we are. When your love is true love, which is pure and unconditional it becomes the magical essence that changes lives.
Love drives our evolution. It gives purpose and meaning to the communication and interaction of one soul to another.
When you are secure and emotionally rooted in happiness it allows you to love and be loved in the fullest way possible.
Let Go and step out of the self that is needy, insecure, fearful and feeling unloved in order to let love in to your life.
Become and be the love you wish to see in the world.
Thoughts Affect Attitude, Body Language, Physiology, Motivation
Thoughts affect your attitude, body language, physiology as well as your motivation to act. Thoughts are powerful and they affect everything you do. Negative thoughts have a negative affect on you, they weaken you, control your behaviour, they can even make you spill things, stutter, make you moody, depressed, tense and they make you breathe shallowly. The breathing rate as well as the heart rate are physiological changes which occur for every thought you think. Your thinking affects every cell in your body.
Control and master your thoughts - as that is your ‘job’. You are in charge and 100% responsible.
From my knowledge, the average person talks to themselves approximately 56,000 words in a 24 hour day. 77% of the self talk is negative I.e. “ I don’t like my hair today”, “ I’m not a speaker”, “ I’m always late”, “ I shouldn’t have said that”, “ Nobody likes me”, “ I’m not a good swimmer”, “ I can’t dance”, “ I can’t cook”, “ I will never loose weight”, “ I just can’t get organised”.
When you think positive, your thoughts have a positive affect on your body, your moods, your motivation to act. Positive thoughts make you balanced, relaxed, happy, patient, even more loving. Your whole being is renewed, when you reach congruency.
Step back and think seriously on what is going on inside of you. To change your personal history (emotions), you have to change your strategy. By stepping back from your thinking you go to a higher psychological level and change will take place. Without changing the level of your thinking, you cannot change the problems which have been created by the same thoughts.
Self-reflexivity is one of the most beautiful qualities of the human mind. Not only do we think about something that has happened, we also think about the thought we had about it. In a fraction of a second, we form thoughts at the back of our minds. By feeling how your emotions are changing, you will find a whole new part of you when you finally discover your positive intention.
There is a part of you that desires you to be better, feel better and be everything you can be and therefore you enjoy more confidence in yourself, as well as increasing your self-esteem, and trusting yourself more. Live a more prosperous life. Go for your dreams. Realise that you are important in the world, you are of unique value. Thank yourself for the beautiful, wonderful human being you are and believe in yourself.
Everyone has negative thoughts but we can beat them and therefore out negative emotions. Geniuses and high achievers are the ones who have already mastered their thoughts and emotions. With an effective strategy or plan, you will make progress, function properly and accomplish your desired goals, as well as radiating more energy, vitality and health. Than you will get out of life what it is you really want and live a life full of abundance.
There is a risk involved in everything
Every time you share a smile
Every time you shed a tear
You are opening yourself up to hurt.
Some people tread slowly through life,
Avoiding the closeness risk brings,
Side-stepping the things they can’t understand
Turning away from those who care too much,
Those who care stay too long,
Those who hold too tightly.
There is never an easy way to love
You can not approach it cautiously
It will not wait for you to arm yourself.
It does not care if you turn away
It is everywhere, it is everything.
Love is the greatest of all risks.
It is not reliable, it is not cautious,
It is not sympathetic
It is unprejudiced and unmerciliess.
It strikes the strongest of mind,
And brings them to their knees in one blow.
Even in the best of times, love hurts.
It hurts to need, it hurts to belong,
It hurts to be the other part of someone else,
Without either of your consent.
But, from the moment it overtakes you,
It hurts worse to be all alone.
The risk of love never depletes;
It grows stronger and more dangerous with time.
But, it’s in the total surrender of all defense,
That we, no matter weak or strong,
No matter willing or captive,
No matter what, we truly experience love.
Despite the many things love is not,
Outweighing it all are the things that love is.
Love is surrender without a loss.
It is a gift without the cost.
It consumes your every thought & desire,
Every breath you take.
It is the fire that fuels you
To do more than pass through life;
It urges you, instead, to live.
No matter the outcome, having felt love,
You will never be the same.
It may scar your heart & soul
And Leave you only memories of forever.
Or, it may cause every day of your life
To feel like there is no need for tomorrow.
But, love is worth it. It is worth the risk…
For in all of life, Love is truly the only risk worth taking.