Orgasms – Do Yours COME Easy?

Posted by Luvy Love

Orgasms – Do Yours COME Easy?

Are you aware that most men can climax without any problems? But what about us women? We just aren’t build that way. Most women have to learn how to reach an Orgasm. That’s a fact!!

Most people don’t realise that if you happen to be a woman, ‘coming’ isn’t all that easy. That’s another fact!

Let’s face it, in these days, wherever you look, be it reading a book, watch a film, look at teen and women’s mags, all ‘paint’ a very nice picture showing today’s females as hot, sex on legs, raring to go, simply orgasmic without any effort.

So how about the women who are neither of the above? And believe me, the number is higher than you imagine. At it’s very best, the media is unhelpful and at it’s worse, the picture the media ‘paints’ is painful and also damaging for most. Teen’s and 20-plus have the tendency to believe that there is something seriously wrong with them. And if they can’t climax to order, they even feel frigid. This is far from the truth. The fact is that mostly they are absolutely normal.

Most younger women don’t ‘manage’ to reach an orgasm until some considerable time after having started sexual activities. AND, if and when they do ‘come’, they do so in a variety of different ways.

Would you believe that:

=> 47 % of women climax for the first time through masturbation
=> 32 % of women climax through sexual intercourse
=> 20 % of women climax through petting
=> 1 % of women climax whilst sleeping
=> the most common age for a woman to reach her first orgasm is 18 years, BUT it could also be as late (or even later) as 40 years…..

I found that one generation away doctors believed that a high number of the female population simply could not climax. The reason being that in sexual medicine, doctors had little or no training at all. And also, they are to embarrassed about sex themselves, not to mention talking about it. They try everything to avoid confrontation, avoid having a discussion with their patients. At that time, from a medical point of view, most medical professionals didn’t rate the importance of the female orgasm, as for an example, in order to get pregnant, the female didn’t need to orgasm.

I would say that if you happen to experience difficulty in reaching that elusive orgasm, if you don’t climax or find it hard to, it’s a good idea “practising” and “exploring” it yourself. And PLEASE, don’t feel it isn’t something you shouldn’t be doing. Masturbation is the “key” in order to learn exactly what pressures, what rhythm you need/like/prefer or even how to stimulate your clitoris to reach the longed for orgasm.
It may feel embarrassing at first, but once you have “learned” how to climax, show it to your partner. Show him what he needs to do to make you ‘come’. Learn to communicate with him. Tell him about your feelings. How you like your body being touched. And if it makes it easier at first, when you can’t express yourself, use caresses. Once you get comfortable and relaxed with your partner, you will love it!

I’d be interested hearing from you and your experiences.