Your first love. Did you feel the nervousness? Being overwhelmed with the desire to spend every single second with that person. Constant nagging doubts that the bubble would burst and end any minute?
Do you remember the exact moment when you were holding hands? Kissed? … Touched? … and who knows, possibly made love?
Do you remember that time?
Are you sure? You don’t? ? To be honest, I don’t really remember it either.
Lets be serious for a minute. The first moment, the first blush of love is not like anything else you experience in life. Well, of course, I am not denying that there is always bungee jumping, white water rafting, sky diving and maybe for some even swimming with sharks.
To me, when you are in love, you see the world through totally different eyes. You care for someone more than you care for yourself. You feel complete. You never want to be with anyone else except for the one you feel this overwhelming hot desire.
Lets face it. I am sure that most would love to have just one love for their entire life. Some like one to many, where others love with getting nothing in return. And than there are those who are lonely all of their lives and they may find comfort in doing something else.
Love is like an emotional roller coaster and whatever circumstances you find yourself in, it is YOU who’s in the front car.
When love ‘turns up’, it can do that in many ways and you never know when the love arrow hits you straight in your heart.
Love can knock on your door at any age. At any time. At any place. Love can leave you breathless.
If you have a love in your life, be nice to them. Be kind to them. There are many ways to show your love. Show them how much you love them in your own special way.
For the once who are without love. Do not be discouraged. Love seldom comes to you, so seek it out, find it.
You’re in a relationship that fills you with pain, worry, doubt, anxiety and restlessness. You suddenly suffer from sleepless nights. Biting your fingernails. You sit most nights drinking alcohol and smoking.
Wasn’t it just glorious when you first met? You just couldn’t believe how intelligent, funny and loving he was. You got to know each other. He turned into an angry, distant and domineering man. But you were so insanely in love with him and you accepted any humiliation.
You forgot how to be yourself. You were always alert to his moods. You were helpful and yes, even eager to change. But the day came and you couldn’t take it any longer. You moved out. Well, for one day and than you were back.
Not a lot changed. You still craved affection as well as communication. The way he was hooked on computer games and playing non-stop drives you insane. You can’t stand his lack of needing to be with you. To communicate with you. The missing intimacy. The loneliness and the feeling of sexual deprivation.
You feel dependent, where you want to feel relaxed, be at peace. Change your focus. But you choose to blame yourself, after all, it isn’t really his fault.
Does this sound like you?
Love addiction or emotional neediness is a toxic interplay which I also class as co-dependency. A dysfunctional approach to relationships.
=> Love addicts have overpowering emotional needs
=> Love addicts are unable to love themselves, as they have an empty space within they cannot nurture, calm or soothe
=> Love addicts don’t have a clue who they are
=> Love addicts dislike who they think they are
=> Love addicts have no self-esteem
=> Love addicts rely on other’s approval
=> Love addicts rely on other’s love
=> Love addicts have the need for attention
=> Love addicts have a strong need for passion (mistaking passion for love)
=> Love addicts are exhausting
=> Love addicts can humiliate themselves
=> Love addicts can adapt to whatever their lover admires
=> Love addicts can easily accept any kind of abuse
=> Love addicts are obsessed
=> Love addicts may abuse alcohol or food (many are alcoholics or suffer from eating disorders)
=> Love addicts medicate their pain by going shopping
=> Love addicts are destructive
If a love addict feels rejected, he/she may choose to constantly send text messages, call the other person, become a stalker, or even try and stop a new relationship.
Love addiction is a desperate cry for help! Love addiction is a compulsive behaviour, but I guess all addictions are. Lets face it, all addictions are exhausting and of course deeply destructive. If you are a love addict, you know deep down that you are scared of being alone. Being without your lover. Where in reality you know that you want to be FREE.
So how about YOU? Are YOU a love addict?
Final thought: Remember, the cause of your unhappiness is not your relationship, that is just the symptom!
Reading the Lyrics, listening to the music and of course reading the comments once again makes me realise how many people feel hurt in their relationships and that they are trying to blame someone else for their hurt. Amazing really. If you let someone treat you how you really don’t like it, than you have to blame yourself for letting it happen.
Of course I have been hurt once or twice, but that feels as if it was onother life time. I know now that NO ONE can hurt you without your consent. Just my view really.
Fuck You | Eamon
Lyrics
Whoa oh oh
Ooh hooh
No No No
See I dont, know why, I liked you so much
I gave you all, of my trust
I told you, I loved you,
now thats all down the drain
Ya put me through pain,
I wanna let u know that I feel
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses, they didn’t mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn’t mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back
You thought, you could
Keep this shit from me, yeah
Ya burnt bitch, I heard the story
Ya played me, ya even gave him head
Now ya askin for me back
Ya just another act, look elsewhere
Cuz ya done with me
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn’t mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn’t mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back
Ya questioned, did I care
You could ask anyone, I even said
Ya were my great one
Now its, over, but I do admit I’m sad.
It hurts real bad, I cant sweat that, cuz I loved a hoe
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn’t mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back