To right Zoë – we have more important things to do. This is very inspiring and reminded me not to put off things till tomorrow. What is it that you shouldn’t be putting off? Go and do what your heart desires.
Seize The Moment
The older I get, the more I believe in it. Do it now! Tomorrow may not come!
I have a friend who lives by a three-word philosophy: “Seize the moment.” Just possibly, she may be the wisest woman on this planet.
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven’t thought about it, don’t have it on their schedule, didn’t know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.
I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I’ve tried to be a little more flexible.
How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn’t suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word “refrigeration” mean nothing to you?
How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched Jeopardy! on television?
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, “How about going to lunch in a half hour?” She would gasp and stammer, “I can’t. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain. And my personal favorite: “It’s Monday”. She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.
Because people cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect:
We’ll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained.
We’ll entertain-when we replace the living room carpet.
We’ll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.
Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of “I’m going to,” “I plan on” and “Someday, when things are settled down a bit.”
When anyone calls my ‘seize the moment’ friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you’re ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It’s just that I might as well apply it directly to my hips with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now…go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to……not something on your SHOULD DO list.
If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say?
And why are you waiting?
Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why.
Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round Or listened to the rain lapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down Don’t dance so fast Time is short The music won’t last.
Do you run through each day on the fly?
When you ask “How are you?” Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, Do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head?
You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last.
Ever told your child, We’ll do it tomorrow And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, Let a good friendship die. To call and say “Hi”?
You’d better slow down Don’t dance so fast. Time is short The music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere you miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day, It is like an unopened gift….Thrown away…
Life is not a race. Do take it slower. Hear the music Before the song is over.
‘Life may not be the party we hoped for… but while we are here we might as well dance!’
When you see love between two persons,
something is flowing, moving, changing.
When there is love between two persons
they live in an aura, there is a constant sharing.
Their vibrations are reaching to each other;
they are broadcasting their being to each other.
There is no wall between them, they are two
and yet not two — they are one also.” ~Osho~
How Men Can Date Online Successfully
by Owen Jones
A lot of people have taken to online dating like ducks to water because it does work or, at least, it can do. Women are, more often, squeamish of meeting a man that they have been chatting to on the Internet.
All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen and, I must say that they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what is a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for the right girl for you.
You must be patient above all else. Do not press her for private data like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and amiable until she feels comfortable talking to you online. Don’t attempt to rush her into meeting you one on one. She will only think that you are desperate or a pervert. Be patient, patient, patient!.
Just be completely honest about what you look like and your job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on fabrication and deceit. Sooner or later, she will find out the truth anyway and then you are back to square one again.
They say that a picture is worth a thousand words. So an idea could be to post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body (clothed, not rude), not just of your head. After all. if you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head, would she?
Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she may like to bring a friend with her.
At the end of the day, you have nothing to hide, have you?. You have been truthful about yourself, and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. Therefore, the only thing left to do is to make her feel safe meeting you.
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Dirty talk is a type of pillow talk. You use vivid words to augment sexual enjoyment before and during the lovemaking.
Talking dirty to men can be anything from giving him insults, vivid images using slang words, to whispering curse expressions to your guy\’s ear.
If you feel timid about it, don\’t be; only the two of you who will be aware of it.
The more you\’ll let go, the better you will be. Your couple\’s life should be hot and wild. It\’s a form of ‘sense of adventure’ that you are giving to your guy.
You might say that you are a ‘good girl’ and you don\’t do those things. Well here is my take on this; if you have preferences in bed, and your spouse is giving enough to fulfill them, maybe I can do my part.
Some guys find it makes them hornier. You can harvest the rewards from this lover\’s game. It makes you feel sexier because you are seeing your man enjoy himself due to your influence. You are providing your guy more excitement.
Lovemaking is at its best when you let go; abandon yourself to the other person is a joyful experience.
Some women use this not only in the bedroom, but in their husband\’s e-mail or work\’s voice mail.
Your guy gets excited to get home and gives you a nice ‘reward’.
What is the top thing to say when talking dirty to men?
1. Tell him what you\’re wearing under your clothing.
2. Put on sexy lingerie and give him a tiny peek when he first sees you. It\’ll drive him mad to want to see more of your outfit all night…until you allow him to see more.
3. Leave him a voice message when he is away
4. at a gathering
5. at your parent\’s house when you go by him
6. right before parting for work
7. Email him some sassy notes
8. Fax it to him
9. Throw hot little texts on his cell phone while is at a sports game with his buddies
It will heat up if you are talking dirty to men at unusual places like:
1. Your parent\’s house
2. at the food store
3. at church?…ok…ok…after church
When is the most excellent timing for this during lovemaking?
From the mid to the end.
You start by telling a physical move that he has made to you and that you had enjoyed. Don\’t worry about feeling embarrassed; he will be more paying attention in the images that you are creating in his imagination.
Are you concerned that you won\’t be excellent at this?
Guys are not hard to light up. It doesn\’t take a great deal for them to get turned on.
If you feel uncomfortable, get some help with a glass or two of wine… Just to break the ice. But please! Don\’t develop a drinking problem!
Having trouble ‘getting it up’? Talking dirty to men might be able to help.
Use this once in a while; they can get too enthusiastic to this. in addition, some men can be a bit turned off or uncomfortable with you unexpectedly starting to talk dirty to them.
You can propose to him to do the alike and it will balance the dynamics.
You can get swear words at the Urban dictionary. It is a slang dictionary. You\’ll be able to get different variations of a slang word.
For instance, let\’s find a variation of breast; there is boobie, nipples, boobs, funbags, just to show a few. Use it to your imagination. Have fun!
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There are times in every relationship when other commitments take priority over your husband or your boyfriend, but these times can hurt a relationship. When you start to notice that you haven’t been as close as you once were, you will want to start taking steps that will reconnect you with your partner and re-establish the strong relationship that you once had.
Realize that the mess can wait
Some women believe that they are being constantly judged by how their house or their living space looks. However, this is far from the case. Instead of making cleaning the majority of your free time, why not allow yourself to let more things go at the end of the day to make room for your relationship? Instead of having the laundry always done and the kitchen always shining, isn’t your relationship worth the time?
Take time for yourself
Many women will feel more connected in their relationships if they take the time to make themselves look good. Something as simple as getting out of sweatpants and tee shirts at the end of the day and into nice jeans and a well-fitting top can help you feel more confident and thus, more attractive to your partner. You don’t have to look like a model, but taking care of your appearance can help you feel like one.
Create a date
At least once a week, you and your partner need to get out of the house and on a date. Too often, long relationships think that they are ‘past’ that, so they settle into a dull life of staying at home. When you were first dating, you went to the movies and out to eat why not try to do that more now? Sure, you won’t be able to do it every week, but if you try, you will both have something to look forward to.
Stop your thinking
Many times, a woman can become frustrated by everything that she is handling, especially when she’s a mom as well as a career woman. When this happens, you might feel as though you could scream at your partner for not being helpful enough, romantic enough, etc. But is this really going to reconnect your relationship? It can help to stop your thinking for a few seconds before you share these kinds of feelings. You might find that you’re actually feeling something else that’s not directed at him.
Put the spotlight on him
When you take the time to do something special for someone else, you will reap the benefits of feeling closer to them as well. Something as simple as packing a lunch or writing a love note in their wallet can be a great way to help your partner know that you care. Everyone likes to feel special.
When you can’t get away
It’s time to be creative if you’re unable to get away from the house. Maybe you can create date night at home, or work together on some goals that you’ve wanted to accomplish. Play board games do whatever you both like to do together. If you have a home remodeling project, don’t leave it just for him, do it together to get more couple time.
If you find yourself broken hearted, and in a break up, I can help you. The no contact rule is your best bet, to win back your ex, and get over that broken heart. Maybe if you understood how a break up works, and what happens. You would understand how, and why the no contact rule, really works. I am going to do my best to lay it all out for you, so keep on reading…OK? Breaking up with your ex is a tough time, but you do not have to lay there, and take it.
Anatomy of a Break Up – How the No Contact Rule Works – Stage 1
OK, this is the worst part of a break up, you have just been dumped, and your mind is reeling. You have a lot of wants: You want your ex back. You want to know why, they broke up with you. And, most importantly, you want the pain to stop. Your first human reaction is an emotional one, you start begging, and pleading, and crying. This is where the no contact rule can save you. If you follow the NC rule, and stop all the pleading, and begging, the initial shock, and pain will pass much quicker, and you will feel better, sooner…Make sense?
I know this is not what you want to hear, but listen….this is the truth. You will need a good plan along with some support, to help you get started, and follow through to the end. It is only there at the end of the no contact rule, that you will find out if your ex is coming back to you, or not. That is why, it is of, the utmost importance, that you do not quit in the middle of the no contact rule strategy…Understand? In the next stage we will discuss emotional control, and how to master your command of the no contact rule.
Anatomy of a Break Up – How the No Contact Rule Works – Stage 2
The rough part is over, and if you are using the no contact rule, things are starting to become clearer for you. Now you can start to see your way through this, and back to your ex. If not, you are still swimming in a sea of self-doubt, and self-pity, and you will drown, if you stay there. In this stage of the break up, you have come to terms with the breakup, and you are working on your emotional control. You are not swimming in the sea of fear, and doubt. You built a boat, and you’re sailing across it to the other side, where success, and happiness awaits you.
The main point of the no contact rule is to gain control over your emotions, before attempting to reconnect with your ex again. Why? Well, what if you get your ex to agree to a meeting, and during that meeting you break down, and start crying, and begging again? Bam! You are back to stage one again; Do you really want to go back there again? I know (from my own personal experience) that is hard, if not impossible to get your emotions under control without a plan, and someone to support you. If all the advice you are getting is to move on, and you are not ready to, then find, and use a good plan using the no contact rule, that includes personal support…OK?
Anatomy of a Break Up – How the No Contact Rule Works – Stage 3
If you really want to make it to stage 3, where you formulate a plan to reconnect with your ex again, you need a plan. The important thing to remember before attempting stage 3 is, you need to have completely passed the other two stages first. This is where personal support comes in, do not listen to people who will not support your efforts. Go find like-minded people, and use them as support. Unfortunately, the heartache forums are not that place, they just like to whine, and bitch. You do not need that, you need support…OK?
Anatomy of a Break Up – How the No Contact Rule Works – Stage 4 And Beyond
Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. What? You want to use the no contact rule, but you do not have a plan, or support?
If you do not have a good plan…I do, and it works…just take a look at my success stories page. I will be happy to help you, and to guide you, if you are willing to work with me, and the plan. Just get the “best free advice” out there, and learn how to properly use the no contact rule. Do It Today! Learn from your mistakes, before you make them….and go get your ex back.
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
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