The Man Who Didn’t Believe In Love – by Don Miguel Ruiz
I really enjoyed listening to this, especially as it actually explained a few things about the relationship I was in for over 8 years not so long ago. Similarities I tell you. Realtionships. Actually very simple really.
Sit back, listen and see what you think. You may find some similarities if not answers that surprise you.
Now, lets see if you’re an addict!
The Man Who Didn’t Believe In Love – by Don Miguel Ruiz
How to Mend a Broken Heart | I am NO Expert, but Self Love is a Succulent Gift
Article from violawoolcott.com from 2007
How can we mend a broken heart?
How can we stop the rain from falling?
How can we stop the sun from shining?
Stop the rain from falling? Stop the sun from shining? Is this really what we want?
I have asked myself this question many, many, many times in my life and I guess that could be something to “argue” about….
I don’t know why, but even I felt lonely tonight.
I decided to lay in my garden on my bench with loads of cushions, listening to my favourite music, with the sun blinder drawn to catch the rain drops and watching them roll down the blinder to just hit the floor……..
I laid there for ages thinking……. starting to feel the cold……. wishing to share the moment in time with someone…. but also knowing that the greatest gift I can give to myself is loving myself and therefore I wouldn’t feel lonely……….
…………..I am definately no expert and I certainly don’t have all of the answers, but I have been through a tremendous amount of experiences in my life and I am not only talking relationships………..but isn’t life and the choices we make what shapes us all? What “makes” us who we are? Who we have become? And if you think about it, aren’t you just grateful for all of your experiences? Of who you are? What you have become? NO doubt, I am!!
The greatest gift that we can receive is loving ourselves… in all aspects of our lives.
Love is the sweet nectar of our soul from which springs forth true abundance, bliss, as well as peace…the fountain of love and deep appreciation.
Loving yourself deeply will surprise you by the riches that come into your life as well as all the things that you have longed for that can be yours, provided that you live from a deep and unending well of self-love.
Don’t ever wish for the rain from falling….
Don’t ever wish for the sun from shining….
ENJOY and if you like let me know how it is that you feel!!
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do | Lets Split Up, Maybe Next Month | Delaying The Moment | Best Kept Secret
I am not an agony aunt or a relationship expert, far from it, BUT lately I have been hearing more and more about “time delay split ups”, so I have done some “investigations”.
Couples feel that by making these private decisions and working on a exit strategy by “delaying the moment” in telling their friends and families, gives them time to allow and stabilise fragile emotions as well as making it less hard on them and taking some of the immidiate stresses away. So secret break ups are on the rise!
Over the past few years “time delay” splits are on the increase and they certainly have become more common. More and more relationships (marriages for that matter) break down and to manage them, sophisticated strategies are developed. Couples decide to still live together for various reasons and sometimes they even plan to do so for some time, which makes it possible for these break ups to be “the best kept secret” for weeks and sometimes even months.
Listening to people’s opinions, I understand that it avoids outside influences as well as it stops people from gossiping by keeping their splits private until all of the details of separation are at least sorted. As most of us know, even making that final decision, there are plenty of things and issues to be sorted and dealt with.
Rhys, a friend of mine told me some time ago that a time delay split between him and his wife brought back the much-needed feeling of “control” for both of them. With the break up being final, the time delay split allowed them to manage the “fallout” and to work out together how to tell everyone i.e. children, parents, friends. From what I know and what I have seen, it worked VERY well for both of them and their children.
It all sound pretty simple to me, but to me the question remains how time delay splits would work if there was another person involved. I feel that if “cheating” would come into it, it be a total different matter.
Yesterday in a conversation with my close friend the word LOVE kept coming up.
“Love, what is it anyway?”
We agreed that love couldn’t really be measured by anything or be seen and as it is an exceptional force, it has the power to transform anyone’s life in a blink of an eye.
Everyone needs love and it can equally be given to anyone – the rich as well as the poor, regardless of age, gender, race or physical ability. There is enough available and we can give it freely to all.
Much of our time we waste on things instead of the people we love as well as missing the chance to express it. We have regrets – but we can’t turn back the clock.
How about showing someone you feel love for in your heart (in the best way you know how) that you love them?
Some time ago I came across the article “Is Sex Necessary?”. Reading it again I can only say we all better “get on with it”.
Having regular as well as enthusiastic sex confers a host of measurable physiological advantages, no matter if you are male or female. Of course, that is assuming that you are engaging in sex without contracting a sexually transmitted disease.
Having sex even just a few times a week has an associative or connecting relationship with the following:
* Improved sense of smell
* Reduced risk of heart disease
* Weight loss, overall fitness
* Reduced depression
* Pain-relief
* Less-frequent colds and flu
* Better bladder control
* Better teeth
* Even a happier prostate?
Question is, is there such a thing as too much sex? In purely physiological terms, the answer is this: If you’re female, probably not. If you’re male? You betcha.
Your first love. Did you feel the nervousness? Being overwhelmed with the desire to spend every single second with that person. Constant nagging doubts that the bubble would burst and end any minute?
Do you remember the exact moment when you were holding hands? Kissed? … Touched? … and who knows, possibly made love?
Do you remember that time?
Are you sure? You don’t? ? To be honest, I don’t really remember it either.
Lets be serious for a minute. The first moment, the first blush of love is not like anything else you experience in life. Well, of course, I am not denying that there is always bungee jumping, white water rafting, sky diving and maybe for some even swimming with sharks.
To me, when you are in love, you see the world through totally different eyes. You care for someone more than you care for yourself. You feel complete. You never want to be with anyone else except for the one you feel this overwhelming hot desire.
Lets face it. I am sure that most would love to have just one love for their entire life. Some like one to many, where others love with getting nothing in return. And than there are those who are lonely all of their lives and they may find comfort in doing something else.
Love is like an emotional roller coaster and whatever circumstances you find yourself in, it is YOU who’s in the front car.
When love ‘turns up’, it can do that in many ways and you never know when the love arrow hits you straight in your heart.
Love can knock on your door at any age. At any time. At any place. Love can leave you breathless.
If you have a love in your life, be nice to them. Be kind to them. There are many ways to show your love. Show them how much you love them in your own special way.
For the once who are without love. Do not be discouraged. Love seldom comes to you, so seek it out, find it.
