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This was posted to me today and came just at the ‘right’ time. There is something bothering me for quite some time now and now I have the answer 
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Love Affairs: What Would You Do?
Submitted by Evina
Love affairs. Who wants them? Only the phrase brings up all kinds of emotions in me.
Love affairs can be so many things, from wonderful to awful, from exciting to frightening, from glorious to hurtful.
For some love affairs can be the most destructive thing in the world, for others the most creative thing in the world.
Have you ever thought how it would be if no woman in the world would ever go out with a married man? And of course, same visa versa. I guess the divorce rate would drop drastically, don’t you think?
Question is, what makes us want to date someone who’s ‘taken’? Who’s already committed? Someone who’s married with a family? YES, someone who IS unavailable?
Is it the adventure? Romance? The excitement of something new? The thrill of the forbidden? Maybe even boredom and YES, is it just sex?
Where will it all end? And what about the many lives that can be destroyed? And even if it goes on for sometime and you get emotionally involved, your heart is on fire and than realise there is no future? Where will it leave you?
… and in the end were tears!…
…… Believe me, I KNOW what I’m talking about!…………
Click here and listen - Dixie Chicks: Not Ready To Make Nice
Love and Anger in Your Relationship | Anger, Love’s Poison
It’s impossible for love and anger to run alongside each other. Especially not in a relationship. Surely I don’t have to tell you that anger will ALWAYS push love away. It is almost impossible for someone to receive anger and to continue feeling love towards the angry person.
Anger shows up in many different forms, I.e, sarcasm, hostility, criticism and yes, in many cases even in cruelty. Anger poisons love. Anger is known to be one of the most negative emotions, and negative feelings are powerful. They linger. They are LONG lasting.
We all experience times when we feel irritated with our partner, or even another close member of the family. But at these moments we have a choice. We will almost certainly ruin our relationship if we react with judgement, criticism, conflict or anger. As I said, we have a choice, and we can consciously decide to respond with kindness, understanding, patience and yes, we can also respond with love.
If you think or anyone tells you that arguments are ‘normal’ or a ‘necessary’ part in a relationship, don’t listen and think again. Successful relationships are built with love and respect. By arguing and showing anger you will drive a wedge between you and your partner. And that in turn makes feelings of love and respect for each other impossible. Of course, we do accept the occasional ‘conflict’, and a strong relationship will without a doubt endure the occasional “mistake” and really, we all rather strive for continuous peace, tranquillity and harmony.
So if you want a loving relationship - keep your anger away.
No-Strings Attached | The grass is always greener on the other side
Submitted by Katy Burns
It’s shocking, nut more than half of all married British men have or have had no-strings attached sex.
Hard to believe, but thousands of cheating spouses have signed up to websites like www.maritalaffair.co.uk or www.illicitencounters.com which make it easier than ever to arrange “extra-marital sex” activities in secret.
The Sun reporter Laura Stott went undercover to reveal the “dirty” world of husbands and to expose the many stories, the many lies they tell their wives.
Men feel trapped in their marriages, that’s why they are looking for affairs, for no-strings attached sex and oddly enough, some men enjoy sex especially with other married women knowing that their wives are busy enjoying family weekends a survey revealed.
Are You Afraid of Commitment?
=> How do you feel when someone tells you “I love you” for the first time?
=> After a couple of months dating someone, how many of your friends, family members, colleagues do you introduce them to?
=> How much of your time do you put into a relationship?
=> How do you feel spending time with people who been married for some time?
=> Would you want to change the person you are dating before you commit yourself?
=> The person you are dating becomes needy whilst going through a rough patch, what would you do?
=> Could you see yourself cheating on someone at this point in your life?
To take the test click here: Are You Afraid of Commitment?
It be nice if you shared your answers with us.
Cheating, Infidelity, and Affairs
What is there to say?
Catch your boyfriend cheating?
Stuck in a bad marriage?
Don’t know how to end an affair?
How to trust your boyfriend.
What is cheating?
House For Sale - Husband Included
How ‘faithful’ are you? Are you a cheater?
Infidelity is on the rise… Married BUT cheating!!!
I am sure there are many men (AND women) out there who have been there before and find that it doesn’t only create old familiar issues, it creates new once also. Of course, for some it’s a very confusing situation. But for others polyamory (more than one intimate partner at the same time) seems to work well.
How about you?
=> What meets your needs and desires?
=> What should a socially accepted relationship look like?
=> How do you feel about ‘open relationships’ versus ‘customised relationships?
=> Do you believe cheating is a SIN?
=> What about your own story? Do you have one to tell?
=> What’s your personal experience?
=> How would you feel being the ‘other’, the ‘bit on the side’?
=> What is there at the end of it?
=> How do you feel about polyamory?
And that also leaves the question about marriage. Do we really need government and legal institutions to confirm to us that our marriage is official?
I’d like to hear your thoughts/experiences/feelings on this - and believe me, I also have a story to tell.
Related reading:
Rita Watson: New rules for open marriage
Researchers found that people laugh 6 times more when they are with another person and 30 times more when they are in a group. It is unfortunate really that people laugh more in a group setting than with just one other person.
Females laugh 125% more than males. What is the matter with you guys?
In relationships laughter declines noticeably as we age.
Laughter is vital, even more so when a relationship has ‘cooled off’ a little.
Laughter establishes a positive emotional state between couples who enjoy each others company.
But these days there are also married couples who no longer ’make’ their own laughter. Sad but true, they rely on a TV programme to get most of their laughter. Have you ever noticed when you go to a restaurant that it is usually the married couples who are the once not talking to each other.
I am sure that we have all browsed through personal ads before. Well, I have and I have noticed that more than 85% of women look for a partner with a “good sense of humour”. It seems to be on top of the list as an important ‘quality’ to have. SENSE OF HUMOUR! Very desirable!
Laughter is what we need the most
Laughter gives you pleasure
Laughter gives you enjoyable social aspects
Laughter can subdue Anger
Laughter is a stress-reliever
Laughter helps with anxiety
Laughter makes you feel good
Laughter can bring peace
Laughter facilitates intimacy
Laughter plays a big part in ‘mating’Laughter is the key to life….
Smile and the World smiles with you! Laughter is contagious, you should try it more often
To listen to what they have to say, click on the link: Laughing for the HEALTH of it
Love Letters - Natasha, Will You Marry Me?
I don’t know about you, but I think Jeff done a great job of his video and his proposal.
To all you men who are watching this, I hope you find the video inspiring and that it will give you the incentive to go a little beyond your threshold and make a bit more ‘fuss’ of the women in your lives. Well, it worked for Jeff - - Natasha said YES!!
Love Letters - An Animated Proposal
At the time of my viewing this video has been watched an amazing 895,908 times.
Men will be bad mouthed, tarred and feathered for seeing a prostitute. And who knows, if he is married, maybe he should be for having broken his vows to his wife. Or some may think that he should even be locked away for seeing a hooker? And the question almost always comes up, what is up with those men who visit a prostitute? Why would he do such a incredible dumb thing? What is the attraction? Has it something to do with power? Maybe Escape? … or even self-sabotage?
If we look at it from a psychological point, it doesn’t matter much to a man where the prostitute comes from. Be it from a VIP Club, or a strip club. Even the costs involved has little to do with it. No matter how high the price.
The prostitute temporarily supplies a short lived ‘psychic’ factor. The relief of the conflict of responsibility and guilt. This appeals to the man. After they have made their payment, they experience that ‘she’ will still be totally care, be committed and devoted to him, to his happiness, pleasure and his satisfaction. It makes the prostitute kind of ‘irresistible’. And also, he doesn’t have to worry about pleasing ‘her’. He does not have to make her happy. Worry about her emotional state or her emotional demands. He can ‘give’ as he pleases. He can also take as he pleases. And they both know that there doesn’t need to be a mutual exchange. He can be totally selfish. If he decides, he can be aggressive, or passive and ‘she’ won’t be upset. ‘She’ will even ‘play’ and act aroused and is completely focused on ‘her customer‘. He has no responsibility for her whatsoever. It doesn’t matter if the prostitute is acting, as to be honest, he just likes to be the center of her world and the illusion of authenticity is more than enough for him.
Sometimes men belief that women are ‘high maintenance’ as well as helpless and men are physically weighted down by the feeling that they are responsible for a woman, that they are obliged to make her happy, look after her and they feel compelled to rather be in a relationship with a hooker. That is the only way for them to feel guild, responsibility and worry free.
That is what men may belief and these beliefs are reinforced by our culture and those beliefs are possibly formed in childhood. Quite often these beliefs are wrong. But sometimes when men have these feelings, they feel held back, inhibited, and pressurised in their sexual relationships. Men feel if they don’t give a lot they can’t get much out of a relationship and sometimes they rather ‘pay’ the high price for a ‘relationship’ with a prostitute so they get what they want. And there is no doubt, if they are in a ‘normal’ relationship or even married, eventually it will make their relationship or even their marriages suffer.
Some men seek relationships in which they can let go, freely express themselves with their desires. They don’t have to worry, feel guilty or even lie to a partner/wife, so they seek the freedom of a relationship with a prostitute.
And there are also ‘business’ men, for some of them these issues are slightly heightened. Of course, we can argue about it, but they are accustomed to wielding power. They are used to ‘using’ others and they expect others to ‘serve’ their needs. In the world they live in, no one gives anything without the expectation in getting something back. They claim that everybody wants a piece of them. In their world, (well, in the healthiest of cases), they feel that at home they can be themselves being with their families, feel accepted and loved without conditions. But than it happens, too often their marriages and family lives have to take a backseat to their careers. Their marriage looses purpose, it no longer functions as havens of mutual exchange, connection, love and passion… and THAN, the sex-life is on zero… here he goes, he finds a prostitute… pays in advance and he can enjoy the fantasy, whatever it is, whatever he wants, his immediate pleasure is ‘her‘ sole aim, which ‘she’ pursues ’happily’. He does not have to do anything for anybody during the time he is with ‘her’. He is the most important person.
What motivates the individual man to do the very thing we call ‘stupid’? What makes them so destructive to themselves and others? Is it their anxiety? The conflicts they suffer at home? That they can freely express themselves and their desires? Or is it the longings not to have to do anything for anyone?