There are times in every relationship when other commitments take priority over your husband or your boyfriend, but these times can hurt a relationship. When you start to notice that you haven’t been as close as you once were, you will want to start taking steps that will reconnect you with your partner and re-establish the strong relationship that you once had.
Realize that the mess can wait
Some women believe that they are being constantly judged by how their house or their living space looks. However, this is far from the case. Instead of making cleaning the majority of your free time, why not allow yourself to let more things go at the end of the day to make room for your relationship? Instead of having the laundry always done and the kitchen always shining, isn’t your relationship worth the time?
Take time for yourself
Many women will feel more connected in their relationships if they take the time to make themselves look good. Something as simple as getting out of sweatpants and tee shirts at the end of the day and into nice jeans and a well-fitting top can help you feel more confident and thus, more attractive to your partner. You don’t have to look like a model, but taking care of your appearance can help you feel like one.
Create a date
At least once a week, you and your partner need to get out of the house and on a date. Too often, long relationships think that they are ‘past’ that, so they settle into a dull life of staying at home. When you were first dating, you went to the movies and out to eat why not try to do that more now? Sure, you won’t be able to do it every week, but if you try, you will both have something to look forward to.
Stop your thinking
Many times, a woman can become frustrated by everything that she is handling, especially when she’s a mom as well as a career woman. When this happens, you might feel as though you could scream at your partner for not being helpful enough, romantic enough, etc. But is this really going to reconnect your relationship? It can help to stop your thinking for a few seconds before you share these kinds of feelings. You might find that you’re actually feeling something else that’s not directed at him.
Put the spotlight on him
When you take the time to do something special for someone else, you will reap the benefits of feeling closer to them as well. Something as simple as packing a lunch or writing a love note in their wallet can be a great way to help your partner know that you care. Everyone likes to feel special.
When you can’t get away
It’s time to be creative if you’re unable to get away from the house. Maybe you can create date night at home, or work together on some goals that you’ve wanted to accomplish. Play board games do whatever you both like to do together. If you have a home remodeling project, don’t leave it just for him, do it together to get more couple time.
Love affairs. Who wants them? Only the phrase brings up all kinds of emotions in me.
Love affairs can be so many things, from wonderful to awful, from exciting to frightening, from glorious to hurtful.
For some love affairs can be the most destructive thing in the world, for others the most creative thing in the world.
Have you ever thought how it would be if no woman in the world would ever go out with a married man? And of course, same visa versa. I guess the divorce rate would drop drastically, don’t you think?
Question is, what makes us want to date someone who’s ‘taken’? Who’s already committed? Someone who’s married with a family? YES, someone who IS unavailable?
Is it the adventure? Romance? The excitement of something new? The thrill of the forbidden? Maybe even boredom and YES, is it just sex?
Where will it all end? And what about the many lives that can be destroyed? And even if it goes on for sometime and you get emotionally involved, your heart is on fire and than realise there is no future? Where will it leave you?
Love and Anger in Your Relationship | Anger, Love’s Poison
It’s impossible for love and anger to run alongside each other. Especially not in a relationship. Surely I don’t have to tell you that anger will ALWAYS push love away. It is almost impossible for someone to receive anger and to continue feeling love towards the angry person.
Anger shows up in many different forms, I.e, sarcasm, hostility, criticism and yes, in many cases even in cruelty. Anger poisons love. Anger is known to be one of the most negative emotions, and negative feelings are powerful. They linger. They are LONG lasting.
We all experience times when we feel irritated with our partner, or even another close member of the family. But at these moments we have a choice. We will almost certainly ruin our relationship if we react with judgement, criticism, conflict or anger. As I said, we have a choice, and we can consciously decide to respond with kindness, understanding, patience and yes, we can also respond with love.
If you think or anyone tells you that arguments are ‘normal’ or a ‘necessary’ part in a relationship, don’t listen and think again. Successful relationships are built with love and respect. By arguing and showing anger you will drive a wedge between you and your partner. And that in turn makes feelings of love and respect for each other impossible. Of course, we do accept the occasional ‘conflict’, and a strong relationship will without a doubt endure the occasional “mistake” and really, we all rather strive for continuous peace, tranquillity and harmony.
So if you want a loving relationship – keep your anger away.
No-Strings Attached | The grass is always greener on the other side
Submitted by Katy Burns
It’s shocking, nut more than half of all married British men have or have had no-strings attached sex.
Hard to believe, but thousands of cheating spouses have signed up to websites like www.maritalaffair.co.uk or www.illicitencounters.com which make it easier than ever to arrange “extra-marital sex” activities in secret.
The Sun reporter Laura Stott went undercover to reveal the “dirty” world of husbands and to expose the many stories, the many lies they tell their wives.
Men feel trapped in their marriages, that’s why they are looking for affairs, for no-strings attached sex and oddly enough, some men enjoy sex especially with other married women knowing that their wives are busy enjoying family weekends a survey revealed.
=> How do you feel when someone tells you “I love you” for the first time?
=> After a couple of months dating someone, how many of your friends, family members, colleagues do you introduce them to?
=> How much of your time do you put into a relationship?
=> How do you feel spending time with people who been married for some time?
=> Would you want to change the person you are dating before you commit yourself?
=> The person you are dating becomes needy whilst going through a rough patch, what would you do?
=> Could you see yourself cheating on someone at this point in your life?
Infidelity is on the rise… Married BUT cheating!!!
I am sure there are many men (AND women) out there who have been there before and find that it doesn’t only create old familiar issues, it creates new once also. Of course, for some it’s a very confusing situation. But for others polyamory (more than one intimate partner at the same time) seems to work well.
How about you?
=> What meets your needs and desires?
=> What should a socially accepted relationship look like?
=> How do you feel about ‘open relationships’ versus ‘customised relationships?
=> Do you believe cheating is a SIN?
=> What about your own story? Do you have one to tell?
=> What’s your personal experience?
=> How would you feel being the ‘other’, the ‘bit on the side’?
=> What is there at the end of it?
=> How do you feel about polyamory?
And that also leaves the question about marriage. Do we really need government and legal institutions to confirm to us that our marriage is official?
I’d like to hear your thoughts/experiences/feelings on this – and believe me, I also have a story to tell.
Researchers found that people laugh 6 times more when they are with another person and 30 times more when they are in a group. It is unfortunate really that people laugh more in a group setting than with just one other person.
Females laugh 125% more than males. What is the matter with you guys?
In relationships laughter declines noticeably as we age.
Laughter is vital, even more so when a relationship has ‘cooled off’ a little.
Laughter establishes a positive emotional state between couples who enjoy each others company.
But these days there are also married couples who no longer ’make’ their own laughter. Sad but true, they rely on a TV programme to get most of their laughter. Have you ever noticed when you go to a restaurant that it is usually the married couples who are the once not talking to each other.
I am sure that we have all browsed through personal ads before. Well, I have and I have noticed that more than 85% of women look for a partner with a “good sense of humour”. It seems to be on top of the list as an important ‘quality’ to have. SENSE OF HUMOUR!Very desirable!
Laughter is what we need the most
Laughter gives you pleasure
Laughter gives you enjoyable social aspects
Laughter can subdue Anger
Laughter is a stress-reliever
Laughter helps with anxiety
Laughter makes you feel good
Laughter can bring peace
Laughter facilitates intimacy
Laughter plays a big part in ‘mating’
Laughter is the key to life….
Smile and the World smiles with you! Laughter is contagious, you should try it more often
I don’t know about you, but I think Jeff done a great job of his video and his proposal.
To all you men who are watching this, I hope you find the video inspiring and that it will give you the incentive to go a little beyond your threshold and make a bit more ‘fuss’ of the women in your lives. Well, it worked for Jeff – - Natasha said YES!!
Love Letters – An Animated Proposal
At the time of my viewing this video has been watched an amazing 895,908 times.
