May
27
Posted by Luvy Love
Masturbation, is it a dirty act?
Masturbation! A ‘tricky’ subject for some women, although most enjoy “doing it” on a regular basis. And I tell you, there are only a few who would be comfortable with openly talking about it, and I mean not even with their significant other.
From my personal research I find that quite often this has to do with how we have been brought up. Being taught that it is inappropriate and unnecessary, YES, we have even been told that it a dirty “act”.
Isn’t it lucky that our mindsets are fully reversible? I promise you, this is easier than you think.
Go on, all she needs a bit of encouragement. And yes, of course a man who is willing to let her choose the pace. Try it and it won’t be long before she will discover how much masturbation is a turn-on for the two of you.
May
15
Posted by Luvy Love
Orgasms – Do Yours COME Easy?
Are you aware that most men can climax without any problems? But what about us women? We just aren’t build that way. Most women have to learn how to reach an Orgasm. That’s a fact!!
Most people don’t realise that if you happen to be a woman, ‘coming’ isn’t all that easy. That’s another fact!
Let’s face it, in these days, wherever you look, be it reading a book, watch a film, look at teen and women’s mags, all ‘paint’ a very nice picture showing today’s females as hot, sex on legs, raring to go, simply orgasmic without any effort.
So how about the women who are neither of the above? And believe me, the number is higher than you imagine. At it’s very best, the media is unhelpful and at it’s worse, the picture the media ‘paints’ is painful and also damaging for most. Teen’s and 20-plus have the tendency to believe that there is something seriously wrong with them. And if they can’t climax to order, they even feel frigid. This is far from the truth. The fact is that mostly they are absolutely normal.
Most younger women don’t ‘manage’ to reach an orgasm until some considerable time after having started sexual activities. AND, if and when they do ‘come’, they do so in a variety of different ways.
Would you believe that:
=> 47 % of women climax for the first time through masturbation
=> 32 % of women climax through sexual intercourse
=> 20 % of women climax through petting
=> 1 % of women climax whilst sleeping
=> the most common age for a woman to reach her first orgasm is 18 years, BUT it could also be as late (or even later) as 40 years…..
I found that one generation away doctors believed that a high number of the female population simply could not climax. The reason being that in sexual medicine, doctors had little or no training at all. And also, they are to embarrassed about sex themselves, not to mention talking about it. They try everything to avoid confrontation, avoid having a discussion with their patients. At that time, from a medical point of view, most medical professionals didn’t rate the importance of the female orgasm, as for an example, in order to get pregnant, the female didn’t need to orgasm.
I would say that if you happen to experience difficulty in reaching that elusive orgasm, if you don’t climax or find it hard to, it’s a good idea “practising” and “exploring” it yourself. And PLEASE, don’t feel it isn’t something you shouldn’t be doing. Masturbation is the “key” in order to learn exactly what pressures, what rhythm you need/like/prefer or even how to stimulate your clitoris to reach the longed for orgasm.
It may feel embarrassing at first, but once you have “learned” how to climax, show it to your partner. Show him what he needs to do to make you ‘come’. Learn to communicate with him. Tell him about your feelings. How you like your body being touched. And if it makes it easier at first, when you can’t express yourself, use caresses. Once you get comfortable and relaxed with your partner, you will love it!
I’d be interested hearing from you and your experiences.
Feb
22
Posted by Luvy Love
Masturbation, Practise Makes Perfect!
One of the activities everyone enjoys is Masturbation. But how many are comfortable talking about it with friends, their family doctor and not to mention their partners. This is mainly due to social taboos remembered by “facial expressions of discomfort” by parents and most probably sex educating teachers. However, as most of us enjoy masturbation we are able to ignore the discouragement and we continue doing it into adulthood, even though many men worry that the ‘act’ may be unhealthy on some level. After all, how can something that gives so much pleasure not be bad for you?
Masturbation is not bad for you, and as long as it isn’t taking over and interfering with your work performance or taking precedence over the routine activities in your life, there’s no reason for concern. Masturbation won’t decrease your sex drive, neither will it cause any health problems.
If you masturbate to a point where it’s interfering with work or your personal relationships, I would say that it’s probably time to cut back a little and maybe speak to a professional about underlying issues that could be the cause for it.
I am sure you already know this, but ejaculation followed as a result of masturbation is no different than ejaculation followed as a result of sexual intercourse. Your sperm count would be the same in either case, so there is no decline in male fertility having frequent sexual encounters, therefore it be the same for frequent masturbation. Having said that, masturbation could conceivably affect the quality of his sperm., if a man has a low sperm count to begin with. If you are actively trying to father children, you should refrain from masturbation when your partner is ovulating to make sure that your sperm is of the highest quantity and quality of sperm possible.
Some men are dissatisfied with their performance and they want to ejaculate more forcefully. There’s an easy solution. If you spend some quality time strengthening your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, you will be amazed what a difference the exercises can make. Of course, don’t expect miracles, as it won’t happen overnight. Remember, practise makes perfect. It will happen eventually. Should you be concerned about ’volume’, try to reduce the frequency with which you masturbate and refrain from ejaculating for a couple of days. That should make a difference and you’ll see definite results the next time you do it.
Masturbation is one of the few pleasures in life that is good for you and it is a perfectly acceptable activity. Don’t dwell on all the negative connotations you were exposed to as a kid, just forget about them.
Masturbation is a perfectly acceptable activity, and one of the few pleasures in life that is actually good for you. Forget all the negativity you were exposed to as a child. You can and should enjoy it without worrying about any risks, as there aren’t any. It has been proven that masturbation is good for sexual tension, migraines and a lot of other aches and pains. And if this isn’t proof enough for you, it is also known that frequent masturbation (seven times or more a week) is good for maintaining good prostate health and reducing the chances of developing prostate cancer.
Final note:
I think these are good enough excuses, don’t you think? Trust me, Masturbation is healthy!