Are You Afraid of Commitment?

Are You Afraid of Commitment?

To take the test click here: Are You Afraid of Commitment?

It be nice if you shared your answers with us.

Sex at The Workplace – Are You Doomed To Be Slutty?

Sex at The Workplace – Are You Doomed To Be Slutty?

Sexuality?
Sexy clothing?
Sexual fantasies?
Sexual harassment?

Most work places are full of this kind of thing. And of course, it won’t stop being forbidden or denied.

What happens when you feel the energy, the attraction to these creative, smart, attractive, handsome and/or good looking people you are working with? You are working very closely on projects together, have dead-lines and than you find “these” thoughts racing through your mind? No doubt, some of us have had their ‘own’ experience with this stuff. Not a lot you can do to stop these thoughts racing through your head is there?

Have you ever noticed what a great ‘ice-breaker’ a ‘flirty’ joke can be? It could also be a ‘great’ end to your career though.

And how about these men who are ‘allowed’ to ‘groom’ themselves. They can be as attractive as they want. But what happens if a women do? Aren’t they likely to be doomed ‘slutty’?

What are the rules?

Who’s made the rules?

Why were those rules made?

Where are the lines?

What are the boundaries?

… and WHAT do you think some of the issues are why this is happening?

Golden Opportunities for Rich Living

Golden Opportunities for Rich Living

“One important source of unhappiness is the habit of
putting off living to some fictional future date.
Men and women are constantly making
themselves unhappy because in deferring
their lives to the future they lose sight
of the present and its golden opportunities for rich living.”

~ W. Beran Wolfe

If Men Had Boobs | Attractive Containers

If Men Had Boobs | Attractive Containers

Makes me wonder how they would take it?

It is soooo true! I know exactly how it feels not getting your ‘size’ when you are ‘bigger’ than most…and YES, I do also believe that male bra designers prefer smaller boobs, or what happened to the ‘larger‘ than ‘large‘ “Attractive Containers“ designs?

I realized today that male bra designers prefer small boobs. I can prove that because it is nearly impossible for anyone with big boobs to find a bra that is even remotely attractive. For those of us who are well endowed, it seems that bras are for utilitarian purposes only, that is, to hold those boulders up where they belong. No, instead of those cute, colorful bras for the tiny-titty-B-cup-and-under set, we get white, black or tan (and sometimes pink!!) industrial strength bras whose only embellishment might be some itchy lace. Let’s put some of that lace on your y-fronts, shall we, boys? And let’s not forget to mention that these same behemoths have shoulder straps that could double as seatbelts. Jesus fucking Christ. Have some imagination, will you? … … to read more, click here : If Men Had Boobs

When Love-Making Becomes a Habit

When Love-Making Becomes a Habit

We are creatures of habit and that even includes most of what we do sexually. That means that also the way we make love becomes a habit. We do it the same way, same positions and even on the same days. For most people sex has become a ‘goal-orientated’ activity. With the goal being the Orgasm. But we lose out on the pleasure along the way, as we get so lost in rushing to get there.

We could really get involved with our partner, if we took the Orgasm completely out of the equation, stopped being so concerned and hung-up with the end result, and if we were fully present, the pleasure we could get from that would be so much greater and the intimacy would be so much deeper.

You just think, sex with the lights off. How intimate can you be? Or how intimate can you be when your eyes are closed and you are lost in some kind of fantasy? In those moments, how connected are you really to your partner?

I am not suggesting that you don’t have Orgasms. Far from it. It is quite simple. I am suggesting to be fully present with your partner. Acknowledge the love you share and acknowledge each other. During lovemaking look into each others eyes. It kind of ‘forces’ you to be fully in the moment with your partner. I am sure you have heard the expression “the eyes are the windows to the soul“. Therefore looking into each others eyes gives you both the opportunity to share a soul connection. By doing that, you go beyond the physical into something deep and far more special.

Learn How to Handle Your Man

Learn How to Handle Your Man

I have something interesting for you to think about.

It’s about dating and relationship horror stories. Have you, or maybe women you know, had any, or even lots of them? Have you noticed if some of the same negative and/or limiting situations repeat themselves with different men?

Some examples:

= Have you ever experienced that a few dates with a man gone great, but after you have been ‘physical’ he has not called again?
= The closer you get physical and emotional to a man, the more distant he gets… maybe even scared before he finally pulls away?
= Shortly in to the relationship the connection fades away. The chemistry just disappears – and so does the man?

The same kinds of situations pop up over and over again for some women with different men. Why do some women attract the same kind of men in to their lives?

These are simply common situations with men. That’s the reality. BUT what about the women who end up in great relationships? Why don’t these situations happen to them and they have it so much easier with their partner?

The men they are with aren’t much different from other men. Of course, there are always the extreme examples such as players, the emotionally unhealthy or abusive men and so on… clearly, some men are better ‘relationship material’ than others. Yes, I mean the “good guys” that you meet and as soon as you meet them, you quickly know they’re ‘quality’ people. I guess that is part of the reason that it can be such a shock as well as upsetting when guys like this start performing and acting out some of these common negative male behaviours.

These negative situations as well as the behaviours do come up for most women… Yes, even women where you think that they are having close and loving relationships with great guys. There’s no “immunity” from the common male issues, situations and behaviours. Still, from what I hear there are lots of women who still end up in great relationships with men regardless of all the male behaviours that tear other couples apart.

I bet you wonder what the difference is.

The difference is in HOW women respond!

I am not trying to help men be lazy partners here, or get away with bad behaviour. And I am not saying that women should just accept it all and that men are excused from taking responsibility. What I am saying is that ‘smart’ women KNOW how to handle common challenges and issues that men confront them with. Where on the other hand women get absolutely preoccupied and overpowered emotionally by the same things, setting off total turmoil which quite often shows that it is the beginning of the end.

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What Men Say, BUT Don’t Really Mean

What Men Say, BUT Don’t Really Mean

We all know that men are well known for their straight talking and also for their tell-it-like-it-is-attitude.

But there are also times when ‘YOU gentlemen’ say things that you don’t really mean. And most of these things get you (or have got you) into “serious” trouble. It is imprinted in your DNA and you try and protect your manliness whatever the price……

Let me see and investigate what the most common things you say are and NOT even mean!

Here goes:

>> A discussion comes up about a movie. You haven’t seen it. But you try and blag your way through the discussion where you don’t know NOTHING at all about the film, the cast or even the plot. What is this….? Does it really matter if you can join in to the talk?

>> There he is again, the annoying Pratt from school. He has always been an all around ‘nice’ guy. He was the sports star. The womaniser…they ALL loved him… But you got to be ‘friendly’ don’t you, so you say: “Hi there, let me know when you are free, we need to catch up over a pint soon“. Well, best timing is when hell freezes over.

>> … this is a REAL classic: “Hi Lads, tonight I am only having one drink and then I am off ” – well, I think that most men are incapable of having JUST one drink. Before you know it, you join in to the karaoke madness. Enter an arm-wrestling competition… to end up in the toilet for a “quickie” with the porky barmaid… REMEMBER, that was the one you swore you could never touch!!!

>> Than you come up with the “I want to learn a new language” before? As if! Lets face it, most people have problems to speak proper Queen’s English (places like Facebook and things like mobile phones have only made it worse) and simply, you are not going to become the voice of your generation JUST because you speak two or more languages!

>> … “If you don’t stop it, I call the police”! – Don’t you already know that won’t happen? There be to many questions, to much paperwork, to many repeats of details…so you just leave it…

>> …and there we go… ”I promise, I’ll pay you back” – Honest? There is half a truth here. The intention is there and if you are lucky, you will get it back.

>> … hey! Who are you trying to kid by saying “ Oh, she is just a friend.”… It’s bloody obvious, she is a REAL HOT, BIG BREASTED, NYMPHOMANIAC friend…she is sex on legs.

>> … and than there is “Just for a few seconds, let’s put the tip in to see how it feels”. Yeah right! Isn’t this the usual level of practise for ‘deflowering’ women all over the world? And don’t fool yourself by convincing yourself that there could have been a point of return when you planned to say, “well, ok, it’s not really working for me…to pull it out and get dressed again.

>> “WOW!!!! Is this your new girlfriend? She is gorgeous mate” – to be honest, what else can you say when you are ‘desperate’ since the love in your life ’dropped’ you like a hot potato for a new love… maybe her personal trainer?

>> … and how about this one: “I am sorry, but it’s not you, it’s me!” – Isn’t this the biggest lie ever uttered by men? Have you not worked out that even women are using it now as a way to dump you? The truth being, it is you, but I really no one wants to hurt your feelings. Of course, usually they won’t say, you are to fat, you moan to much, you are crap in bed…and just look at your friends, they are hot stuff… and if only you wouldn’t smell so bad!

>> You are out to eat and than what do you do when ordering your meal? You say “What is the hottest curry on your menu? – and I want it NOW!” – THAT IS DESPERATE! You think you are showing manliness? But all you do is trying to convince yourself that shoving down the vindaloo is the BEST way to make sure to show your male dominance.

>> … there is a loop-hole in the dating system that men are very aware off for years. They like bragging about the shagging in the back of the car. But they say “ I am definitely not like the other guys. I never kiss and tell.” – of course, the last thing they like to brag about is kissing…how BORING!

I am sure I have missed out on a thing or two, so please leave your comment ( both gents and ladies ) and we will add it to the list.