Submitted Annonymous by e-mail

Although I have left my relationship last year November (2008), one would think that after over a year of single life that things become easier and if not, at least that they are at least getting easier.

“BIG SIGH”

IF only they had… what a dissapointment…

Yes of course, I have my good and bad days and yes, of course, I have more ‘good’ days, but the last two days have been all else BUT ‘good’ days.

Maybe it has to do with listening to the words of ‘old’ songs whilst driving? Is it the festive season? Cold, cozy nights indoors? Or is it the end of another year? Who knows? For sure I am going through some emotional turmoil. Dialogue in my head. Questioning my decision and yes, even chest-pain.

What it is about him? I have left after almost 8 years? Am I still missing him? Am I missing his arms around me? Smelling his After-Shave? Listening to his voice? … and yes… there is also his kiss… am I missing it and the rest of it? …

But all I know is that as much as I want to be with him, as much I DON’T really want to be with him… Maybe I should just enter a new relationship? Or would it be ‘wrong’?

Love Affairs: What Would You Do?

Submitted by Evina

Love affairs. Who wants them? Only the phrase brings up all kinds of emotions in me.

Love affairs can be so many things, from wonderful to awful, from exciting to frightening, from glorious to hurtful.

For some love affairs can be the most destructive thing in the world, for others the most creative thing in the world.

Have you ever thought how it would be if no woman in the world would ever go out with a married man? And of course, same visa versa. I guess the divorce rate would drop drastically, don’t you think?

Question is, what makes us want to date someone who’s ‘taken’? Who’s already committed? Someone who’s married with a family? YES, someone who IS unavailable?

Is it the adventure? Romance? The excitement of something new? The thrill of the forbidden? Maybe even boredom and YES, is it just sex?

Where will it all end? And what about the many lives that can be destroyed? And even if it goes on for sometime and you get emotionally involved, your heart is on fire and than realise there is no future? Where will it leave you?

… and in the end were tears!…

…… Believe me, I KNOW what I’m talking about!…………

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How ‘faithful’ are you? Are you a cheater?

Infidelity is on the rise… Married BUT cheating!!!

I am sure there are many men (AND women) out there who have been there before and find that it doesn’t only create old familiar issues, it creates new once also. Of course, for some it’s a very confusing situation. But for others polyamory (more than one intimate partner at the same time) seems to work well.

How about you?

=> What meets your needs and desires?
=> What should a socially accepted relationship look like?
=> How do you feel about ‘open relationships’ versus ‘customised relationships?
=> Do you believe cheating is a SIN?
=> What about your own story? Do you have one to tell?
=> What’s your personal experience?
=> How would you feel being the ‘other’, the ‘bit on the side’?
=> What is there at the end of it?
=> How do you feel about polyamory?

And that also leaves the question about marriage. Do we really need government and legal institutions to confirm to us that our marriage is official?

I’d like to hear your thoughts/experiences/feelings on this - and believe me, I also have a story to tell.

Related reading:
Rita Watson: New rules for open marriage