Jul
11
Posted by Luvy Love
Bed 4 Sale!!
Submitted by Jason Fitzgerald
I am trying to sell a bed frame I recently purchased. I ordered it over the Internet – it was a bit of an impulse buy. Now that it’s arrived, I realize that it doesn’t go with any of my other oak furniture. I can’t send it back. The bed frame is 100% hand carved and imported from India . The mattress is orthopedic, brand new, and hasn’t been slept on.
I thought I would give you first dibs, since it would go so nicely with the items that currently makeup your bedroom motif.
But if you know of anyone else who might be interested please forward this, as I’d like to sell it ASAP.
I haven’t named a price yet, but if you’re interested we’ll work something out. Anyway, have a look below and let me know………………
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May
20
Posted by Luvy Love
When man loses money
“If you want to know what a man is really like, take notice how he
acts when he loses money.”
~ New England Proverb
Mar
14
Posted by Luvy Love
What Motivates Men to Pay for a Relationship?
Men will be bad mouthed, tarred and feathered for seeing a prostitute. And who knows, if he is married, maybe he should be for having broken his vows to his wife. Or some may think that he should even be locked away for seeing a hooker? And the question almost always comes up, what is up with those men who visit a prostitute? Why would he do such a incredible dumb thing? What is the attraction? Has it something to do with power? Maybe Escape? … or even self-sabotage?
If we look at it from a psychological point, it doesn’t matter much to a man where the prostitute comes from. Be it from a VIP Club, or a strip club. Even the costs involved has little to do with it. No matter how high the price.
The prostitute temporarily supplies a short lived ‘psychic’ factor. The relief of the conflict of responsibility and guilt. This appeals to the man. After they have made their payment, they experience that ‘she’ will still be totally care, be committed and devoted to him, to his happiness, pleasure and his satisfaction. It makes the prostitute kind of ‘irresistible’. And also, he doesn’t have to worry about pleasing ‘her’. He does not have to make her happy. Worry about her emotional state or her emotional demands. He can ‘give’ as he pleases. He can also take as he pleases. And they both know that there doesn’t need to be a mutual exchange. He can be totally selfish. If he decides, he can be aggressive, or passive and ‘she’ won’t be upset. ‘She’ will even ‘play’ and act aroused and is completely focused on ‘her customer‘. He has no responsibility for her whatsoever. It doesn’t matter if the prostitute is acting, as to be honest, he just likes to be the center of her world and the illusion of authenticity is more than enough for him.
Sometimes men belief that women are ‘high maintenance’ as well as helpless and men are physically weighted down by the feeling that they are responsible for a woman, that they are obliged to make her happy, look after her and they feel compelled to rather be in a relationship with a hooker. That is the only way for them to feel guild, responsibility and worry free.
That is what men may belief and these beliefs are reinforced by our culture and those beliefs are possibly formed in childhood. Quite often these beliefs are wrong. But sometimes when men have these feelings, they feel held back, inhibited, and pressurised in their sexual relationships. Men feel if they don’t give a lot they can’t get much out of a relationship and sometimes they rather ‘pay’ the high price for a ‘relationship’ with a prostitute so they get what they want. And there is no doubt, if they are in a ‘normal’ relationship or even married, eventually it will make their relationship or even their marriages suffer.
Some men seek relationships in which they can let go, freely express themselves with their desires. They don’t have to worry, feel guilty or even lie to a partner/wife, so they seek the freedom of a relationship with a prostitute.
And there are also ‘business’ men, for some of them these issues are slightly heightened. Of course, we can argue about it, but they are accustomed to wielding power. They are used to ‘using’ others and they expect others to ‘serve’ their needs. In the world they live in, no one gives anything without the expectation in getting something back. They claim that everybody wants a piece of them. In their world, (well, in the healthiest of cases), they feel that at home they can be themselves being with their families, feel accepted and loved without conditions. But than it happens, too often their marriages and family lives have to take a backseat to their careers. Their marriage looses purpose, it no longer functions as havens of mutual exchange, connection, love and passion… and THAN, the sex-life is on zero… here he goes, he finds a prostitute… pays in advance and he can enjoy the fantasy, whatever it is, whatever he wants, his immediate pleasure is ‘her‘ sole aim, which ‘she’ pursues ’happily’. He does not have to do anything for anybody during the time he is with ‘her’. He is the most important person.
What motivates the individual man to do the very thing we call ‘stupid’? What makes them so destructive to themselves and others? Is it their anxiety? The conflicts they suffer at home? That they can freely express themselves and their desires? Or is it the longings not to have to do anything for anyone?
