Orgasms – Do Yours COME Easy?

Orgasms – Do Yours COME Easy?

Are you aware that most men can climax without any problems? But what about us women? We just aren’t build that way. Most women have to learn how to reach an Orgasm. That’s a fact!!

Most people don’t realise that if you happen to be a woman, ‘coming’ isn’t all that easy. That’s another fact!

Let’s face it, in these days, wherever you look, be it reading a book, watch a film, look at teen and women’s mags, all ‘paint’ a very nice picture showing today’s females as hot, sex on legs, raring to go, simply orgasmic without any effort.

So how about the women who are neither of the above? And believe me, the number is higher than you imagine. At it’s very best, the media is unhelpful and at it’s worse, the picture the media ‘paints’ is painful and also damaging for most. Teen’s and 20-plus have the tendency to believe that there is something seriously wrong with them. And if they can’t climax to order, they even feel frigid. This is far from the truth. The fact is that mostly they are absolutely normal.

Most younger women don’t ‘manage’ to reach an orgasm until some considerable time after having started sexual activities. AND, if and when they do ‘come’, they do so in a variety of different ways.

Would you believe that:

=> 47 % of women climax for the first time through masturbation
=> 32 % of women climax through sexual intercourse
=> 20 % of women climax through petting
=> 1 % of women climax whilst sleeping
=> the most common age for a woman to reach her first orgasm is 18 years, BUT it could also be as late (or even later) as 40 years…..

I found that one generation away doctors believed that a high number of the female population simply could not climax. The reason being that in sexual medicine, doctors had little or no training at all. And also, they are to embarrassed about sex themselves, not to mention talking about it. They try everything to avoid confrontation, avoid having a discussion with their patients. At that time, from a medical point of view, most medical professionals didn’t rate the importance of the female orgasm, as for an example, in order to get pregnant, the female didn’t need to orgasm.

I would say that if you happen to experience difficulty in reaching that elusive orgasm, if you don’t climax or find it hard to, it’s a good idea “practising” and “exploring” it yourself. And PLEASE, don’t feel it isn’t something you shouldn’t be doing. Masturbation is the “key” in order to learn exactly what pressures, what rhythm you need/like/prefer or even how to stimulate your clitoris to reach the longed for orgasm.
It may feel embarrassing at first, but once you have “learned” how to climax, show it to your partner. Show him what he needs to do to make you ‘come’. Learn to communicate with him. Tell him about your feelings. How you like your body being touched. And if it makes it easier at first, when you can’t express yourself, use caresses. Once you get comfortable and relaxed with your partner, you will love it!

I’d be interested hearing from you and your experiences.

Do Pregnant Women Have Better Sex and Orgasms?

Do Pregnant Women Have Better Sex and Orgasms?

To me pregnancy is amongst the most sensual, sexual time in a woman’s life, but not many think “orgasmic” when they see a pregnant woman in all her “belly beauty“.

Did you know that pregnant women often top the list of expressing lustfully sexual desires? Increased sexual appetite? And also intensity? Quite often that comes as a surprise to their partner’s delight or even confusion with every “ripening” day.

After all, us women ‘suffer’ from hormones during that time. Most of us are blessed with better hair and skin and it makes us feel more gorgeous than it ever has. Well, it certainly has had that effect on me many years ago.

A lot of women experience increased sexual urges during their first or even their second part of their pregnancy for reasons beyond their control and mother nature is speeding up a woman’s sex drive. Vaginal lubrication increases. Breasts get larger. And not to forget the flow of blood to the genitals increases for heightened sensitivity. The woman literally becomes a “passion playground” for herself and her partner.

In a pregnant woman’s third part of pregnancy, her dream state changes. Dreams may increase and may even become more of sexual nature. More erotic… more physical… more varied… sleep becomes lighter, which makes it easier to remember and recall dreams, visions and also her nocturnal orgasm(s). And of course, sharing her nightly “visions” with her other half could be the cause for even more ‘real life action’.

Feeling more sexy, the increased genital blood flow, greater sensitivity of the vulva and not to forget unexpected fantasies add to a more orgasmic woman. It may even be that this is the time where some women experience spontaneous multiple orgasms during love making.

During pregnancy, many couples experience some of their most intense love-making. Sex is a way of staying connected. Both physically and emotionally, which is crucial factor during this time. Mutual happiness tends to decrease post-birth and as sexual intimacy is the most vulnerable area, staying intimate makes couples feel closer and they also more easily re-connect post-partum.

Go on, make the most of it!

When Love-Making Becomes a Habit

When Love-Making Becomes a Habit

We are creatures of habit and that even includes most of what we do sexually. That means that also the way we make love becomes a habit. We do it the same way, same positions and even on the same days. For most people sex has become a ‘goal-orientated’ activity. With the goal being the Orgasm. But we lose out on the pleasure along the way, as we get so lost in rushing to get there.

We could really get involved with our partner, if we took the Orgasm completely out of the equation, stopped being so concerned and hung-up with the end result, and if we were fully present, the pleasure we could get from that would be so much greater and the intimacy would be so much deeper.

You just think, sex with the lights off. How intimate can you be? Or how intimate can you be when your eyes are closed and you are lost in some kind of fantasy? In those moments, how connected are you really to your partner?

I am not suggesting that you don’t have Orgasms. Far from it. It is quite simple. I am suggesting to be fully present with your partner. Acknowledge the love you share and acknowledge each other. During lovemaking look into each others eyes. It kind of ‘forces’ you to be fully in the moment with your partner. I am sure you have heard the expression “the eyes are the windows to the soul“. Therefore looking into each others eyes gives you both the opportunity to share a soul connection. By doing that, you go beyond the physical into something deep and far more special.

How About a Threesome?

How About a Threesome?

You and your man. You are both all about having fun in the bedroom. And of course, which has lead you to a lot of experimentation. You’ve been up for it so far, as it’s always been about mutual respect and pleasure. But now, where you just started to feel like you both had really found your “groove“, he just comes out with his ‘desire. He wants to try a threesome. And that with another female.

BUT how do you respond to his request? You just don’t know? Aren’t you ALL about fulfilling his fantasies? You are not even sure how this makes you feel about him? You ask yourself if it is possible that he is just looking to hook up with another girl?

He continues staring at you. He is waiting for a response. And he wants it right now!

What would you do? How would/did you handle this?

Aphrodisiacs – Whats Your Favourite One?

Aphrodisiacs – Whats Your Favourite One?

This caught our eye. An interesting approach to getting the MESSAGE across. Video starts of promoting Orgasim Day but if you visit the link below, you will see that the video, then moves on to the much more important subject of why we really should have less meat in our diet.

To Read the article on Vegan Aphrodisiacs Click Here

Bananas — A fruit with a sexy shape, bananas are said to contain chemicals that can lift your mood and make you more confident. Bananas are also famously high in potassium, a nutrient that aids in sex hormone production and boosts energy.

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