Although I have left my relationship last year November (2008), one would think that after over a year of single life that things become easier and if not, at least that they are at least getting easier.
“BIG SIGH”
IF only they had… what a dissapointment…
Yes of course, I have my good and bad days and yes, of course, I have more ‘good’ days, but the last two days have been all else BUT‘good’ days.
Maybe it has to do with listening to the words of ‘old’ songs whilst driving? Is it the festive season? Cold, cozy nights indoors? Or is it the end of another year? Who knows? For sure I am going through some emotional turmoil. Dialogue in my head. Questioning my decision and yes, even chest-pain.
What it is about him? I have left after almost 8 years? Am I still missing him? Am I missing his arms around me? Smelling his After-Shave? Listening to his voice? … and yes… there is also his kiss… am I missing it and the rest of it? …
But all I know is that as much as I want to be with him, as much I DON’T really want to be with him… Maybe I should just enter a new relationship? Or would it be ‘wrong’?
Love affairs. Who wants them? Only the phrase brings up all kinds of emotions in me.
Love affairs can be so many things, from wonderful to awful, from exciting to frightening, from glorious to hurtful.
For some love affairs can be the most destructive thing in the world, for others the most creative thing in the world.
Have you ever thought how it would be if no woman in the world would ever go out with a married man? And of course, same visa versa. I guess the divorce rate would drop drastically, don’t you think?
Question is, what makes us want to date someone who’s ‘taken’? Who’s already committed? Someone who’s married with a family? YES, someone who IS unavailable?
Is it the adventure? Romance? The excitement of something new? The thrill of the forbidden? Maybe even boredom and YES, is it just sex?
Where will it all end? And what about the many lives that can be destroyed? And even if it goes on for sometime and you get emotionally involved, your heart is on fire and than realise there is no future? Where will it leave you?
Just to remind you, trust IS the basis of a good relationship. The nature of the ties don’t matter, be it boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, friends, siblings, neighbours, fellow workers, parents etc. You have to have some measure of trust with others to have the ability to get on well with them.
Sad but true, but this is really the point most men don’t grasp. Most males expect to ’run’ a relationship on their terms. When, where, what, how and not to forget the time here, HE determines when he had enough.
If you doubt him, he doesn’t support you, doesn’t re-assure you - no, he gets moody, calls you insecure and yes, he calls you needy. Where all you want is take part in his day, share what he’s been doing, support him, be there with love and understanding. You doubt him because of what he says and what he doesn’t say. And the distrust creeps in.
So how do you trust a man who talks about other people, even friends, but he never takes you to meet them?
How do you trust a man who swears his love to you, but he can’t introduce you to his family?
And how do you trust a man who just appears to be interested in your body? Having a fun time between the sheets and doesn’t desire to go out with you?
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I’m not sure what to think about dating online myself. I have a couple of friends who have met their partners online, so it does go to show that anything really works.
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I was a very happy man. My wonderful girlfriend
and I had been dating for over a year, and so we
decided to get married. There was only one
little thing bothering me…It was her beautiful
younger sister.
My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very
tight miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. She
would regularly bend down when she was near
me, and I always got more than a nice view. It had to
be deliberate. Because she never did it when she was
near anyone else.
One day her ‘little’ sister called and asked me to
come over to check the wedding invitations. She was
alone when I arrived, and she whispered to me that she
had feelings and desires for me that she couldn’t
overcome. She told me that she wanted me just once
before I got married and committed my life to her sister.
Well, I was in total shock, and couldn’t say a word.
She said, ‘I’m going upstairs to my bedroom, and if
you want one last wild fling, just come up and get me.’
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go
up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned
and made a beeline straight to the front door. I
opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.
Lo and behold, my entire future family was standing
outside, all clapping!
With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and
said, ‘We are very happy that you have passed our
little test. We couldn’t ask for a better
man for our daughter. Welcome to the family.’
I want to have sex with my best couple friends. I love them both and don’t want anyone to get hurt. What shall I do? Should I really act on my threesome curiosity?
Of course, the most important would be the communication and the honesty. Boundaries have to be talked about. What kind of activities would be accepted and of course not be accepted. And what and how will everyone feel AFTER the ‘event’ and the relationship. There may also be the issue about wanting to do it ‘again’. How would you handle this?
No-Strings Attached | The grass is always greener on the other side
Submitted by Katy Burns
It’s shocking, nut more than half of all married British men have or have had no-strings attached sex.
Hard to believe, but thousands of cheating spouses have signed up to websites like www.maritalaffair.co.uk or www.illicitencounters.com which make it easier than ever to arrange “extra-marital sex” activities in secret.
The Sun reporter Laura Stott went undercover to reveal the “dirty” world of husbands and to expose the many stories, the many lies they tell their wives.
Men feel trapped in their marriages, that’s why they are looking for affairs, for no-strings attached sex and oddly enough, some men enjoy sex especially with other married women knowing that their wives are busy enjoying family weekends a survey revealed.
